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Sunday, 23 May 2010
The Truth about Money and Wealth with Dr John Demartini
by Danielle Hutchinson
With the recent events on Wall St, the prospect of economic uncertainty is foremost in the minds of many. Dr John F. Demartini, human behavioural specialist, philosopher and best selling author of several best selling books, including HOW TO MAKE ONE HELL OF A PROFIT AND STILL GET TO HEAVEN, spoke to American Women Online about what it takes to not only build wealth but to keep it.
The hierarchy of your values determines your destiny
The cornerstone of Dr. Demartini's thought-provoking wealth building strategy is an understanding that all of us have a set of values that dictate how we see and act upon the world. "Your life demonstrates your values," Dr Demartini said in a recent interview with Forbes Magazine.
Dr Demartini says when it comes to building monetary wealth the potential for this happening is dependent on not only where it sits in our hierarchy of values, but whether or not we value wealth and money as a means to an end or an end in itself.
What so many people who set goals around attaining wealth fail to realise is that what they are really valuing is what wealth can buy not wealth itself; they want the house, cars, clothes, travel, children's educations etc. This mindset values money only as a means to an end, so even though many may have managed to get themselves into a position where lots of money is coming in they will not become wealthy unless money is valued enough to have a strategy for keeping it.
This means that saving money would need to be one of the top values if wealth is to be built. Otherwise it will flow straight back out again to buy or pay for those things that are placed higher up in their hierarchy.
Dr. Demartini says that those with low values on saving money will more often than not, raise their standards when more money starts coming in; they get a bigger house, better car, clothes etc.
There is no right or wrong in what each person chooses to do with their money. Most people are not aware of their true values, so they unknowingly set goals that are incongruent with what their life is demonstrating as important to them. If they have wealth building and saving low on their values and yet still keep expecting to build wealth, they become frustrated and feel like a failure because they are unable to reach their financial goals.
Dr. Demartini explains, "If you aren't already wealthy or very much on your way to creating wealth, then the probability that you will become wealthy is not high. Often creating wealth is a whim and there is no commitment in the long-term, you might do it for a while, but will eventually move onto something that is actually a higher value."
Dr. Demartini has found that if people truly want to change their financial destiny the most effective strategy is restructuring their value system. He says it is the single most significant factor and will only work if saving and building wealth becomes part of the top 5 in the hierarchy.
RESTRUCTURING OUR HIERARCHY OF VALUES
The inner conflict between "heavenly good" and "hellish profit"
Dr. Demartini's motivation for writing his book, HOW TO MAKE ONE HELL OF A PROFIT AND STILL GET TO HEAVEN was based on his observation of the inner conflict so many people have around money and wealth. He found that even though some would outwardly acknowledge their desire for great wealth, they would inwardly feel guilty about acquiring it.
He says that people often believe that in acquiring wealth they'll somehow become evil, fear that it can only be done at the expense of others or by compromising their higher spiritual values and virtuous nature.
"It's better to give than to receive", "money is the root of all evil" and "filthy rich" are just a few of many time honoured favourites that pervade our culture. It's no wonder that the prospect of restructuring one's hierarchy of values in order to attain wealth strikes fear into the heart of many "good" folks.
"There are two driving forces in human beings, spiritualism and materialism," Dr Demartini said. And yet because most people have the two divided, they don't acknowledge or appreciate that all of the great human achievements have both.
In keeping with the ancient maxim, "Spirit without matter is expressionless and matter without spirit is motionless", Demartini likens intangible spirit and tangible matter to two sides of a golden coin, where the rejection of either side prevents you from ever holding its whole richness. He describes heaven as a state of gratitude for the magnificence and perfection of divine order, whereas hell is its opposite - it is ingratitude and the state of "dis-grace", often based on a lopsided view of reality and is a source of diminished self worth.
Confronting as this may be to some, if we are honest with ourselves we too can observe that the religions of the world have always understood the value of material wealth, and anyone that's ever worked for a not-for profit organisation or tried to start up a charity knows all too well that regardless of how altruistic the intention, one of the top priorities is always to raise funds or capital.
So when we truly look we can see that in reality there is always both giving and receiving. Dr. Demartini has found that until we have gratitude for both, until we embrace and appreciate both equally we will struggle to unleash the exceptional power of one of the greatest of all spiritual, material and financial laws - the principle of fair exchange. The sign that you value yourself is that you are willing to have fair exchange.
In his book Demartini says that "Human emotions interfere with wealth building more than anything else". Along with unresolved guilt and shame he identifies seven fears that commonly sabotage our willingness to receive. These are:
the fear of breaking some perceived authority's morals or ethics
the fear of not knowing enough, being smart enough or creative enough
the fear of failure
the fear of the loss of money
the fear of losing loved ones
the fear of rejection
the fear of not being vital, beautiful, handsome or energetic enough
Through his work, Dr. Demartini has found that these seven fears, along with our guilt and shame, stem from the past and create baggage that lowers self worth. When this happens people move into altruism as a way of compensating because they feel others are more worthy than they are. They want to give disproportionately to what they receive.
There are of course people on the other end of the extreme who overvalue themselves, they become narcissistic and feel they are more worthy than others; they want to receive disproportionately to what they give.
Dr. Demartini says this greed leads to the kind of situation now faced on Wall Street where investors got caught up in the emotional exuberance of overinflated prices and became blind to the fact that the market will always correct itself. However, he also points out that people who have lasting wealth are conservative with their money; they have a strategy and stick to it regardless of the emotional highs and lows of the money market.
Demartini has observed that any time the market goes up or down by more than 10% people without a strategy do foolish things. Warren Buffet, the world's richest man (2008) and noted philanthropist says, "Until you can mange your emotions, don't expect to be able to manage money."
"The people I know who have money and wealth have a balance, they are grounded and inspired, they have a vision of service to people, they are willing to go out and do the service, and at the same time they have a healthy deserve level and they work hard and they receive. There is a little bit of truth in the metaphysics but I don't want to teach an incomplete thing."
IN THE END IT'S SIMPLE
"Don't try to get something for nothing or give something for nothing. Give and receive, it's the wisest thing," Dr Demartini said.
With the recent events on Wall St, the prospect of economic uncertainty is foremost in the minds of many. Dr John F. Demartini, human behavioural specialist, philosopher and best selling author of several best selling books, including HOW TO MAKE ONE HELL OF A PROFIT AND STILL GET TO HEAVEN, spoke to American Women Online about what it takes to not only build wealth but to keep it.
The hierarchy of your values determines your destiny
The cornerstone of Dr. Demartini's thought-provoking wealth building strategy is an understanding that all of us have a set of values that dictate how we see and act upon the world. "Your life demonstrates your values," Dr Demartini said in a recent interview with Forbes Magazine.
Dr Demartini says when it comes to building monetary wealth the potential for this happening is dependent on not only where it sits in our hierarchy of values, but whether or not we value wealth and money as a means to an end or an end in itself.
What so many people who set goals around attaining wealth fail to realise is that what they are really valuing is what wealth can buy not wealth itself; they want the house, cars, clothes, travel, children's educations etc. This mindset values money only as a means to an end, so even though many may have managed to get themselves into a position where lots of money is coming in they will not become wealthy unless money is valued enough to have a strategy for keeping it.
This means that saving money would need to be one of the top values if wealth is to be built. Otherwise it will flow straight back out again to buy or pay for those things that are placed higher up in their hierarchy.
Dr. Demartini says that those with low values on saving money will more often than not, raise their standards when more money starts coming in; they get a bigger house, better car, clothes etc.
There is no right or wrong in what each person chooses to do with their money. Most people are not aware of their true values, so they unknowingly set goals that are incongruent with what their life is demonstrating as important to them. If they have wealth building and saving low on their values and yet still keep expecting to build wealth, they become frustrated and feel like a failure because they are unable to reach their financial goals.
Dr. Demartini explains, "If you aren't already wealthy or very much on your way to creating wealth, then the probability that you will become wealthy is not high. Often creating wealth is a whim and there is no commitment in the long-term, you might do it for a while, but will eventually move onto something that is actually a higher value."
Dr. Demartini has found that if people truly want to change their financial destiny the most effective strategy is restructuring their value system. He says it is the single most significant factor and will only work if saving and building wealth becomes part of the top 5 in the hierarchy.
RESTRUCTURING OUR HIERARCHY OF VALUES
The inner conflict between "heavenly good" and "hellish profit"
Dr. Demartini's motivation for writing his book, HOW TO MAKE ONE HELL OF A PROFIT AND STILL GET TO HEAVEN was based on his observation of the inner conflict so many people have around money and wealth. He found that even though some would outwardly acknowledge their desire for great wealth, they would inwardly feel guilty about acquiring it.
He says that people often believe that in acquiring wealth they'll somehow become evil, fear that it can only be done at the expense of others or by compromising their higher spiritual values and virtuous nature.
"It's better to give than to receive", "money is the root of all evil" and "filthy rich" are just a few of many time honoured favourites that pervade our culture. It's no wonder that the prospect of restructuring one's hierarchy of values in order to attain wealth strikes fear into the heart of many "good" folks.
"There are two driving forces in human beings, spiritualism and materialism," Dr Demartini said. And yet because most people have the two divided, they don't acknowledge or appreciate that all of the great human achievements have both.
In keeping with the ancient maxim, "Spirit without matter is expressionless and matter without spirit is motionless", Demartini likens intangible spirit and tangible matter to two sides of a golden coin, where the rejection of either side prevents you from ever holding its whole richness. He describes heaven as a state of gratitude for the magnificence and perfection of divine order, whereas hell is its opposite - it is ingratitude and the state of "dis-grace", often based on a lopsided view of reality and is a source of diminished self worth.
Confronting as this may be to some, if we are honest with ourselves we too can observe that the religions of the world have always understood the value of material wealth, and anyone that's ever worked for a not-for profit organisation or tried to start up a charity knows all too well that regardless of how altruistic the intention, one of the top priorities is always to raise funds or capital.
So when we truly look we can see that in reality there is always both giving and receiving. Dr. Demartini has found that until we have gratitude for both, until we embrace and appreciate both equally we will struggle to unleash the exceptional power of one of the greatest of all spiritual, material and financial laws - the principle of fair exchange. The sign that you value yourself is that you are willing to have fair exchange.
In his book Demartini says that "Human emotions interfere with wealth building more than anything else". Along with unresolved guilt and shame he identifies seven fears that commonly sabotage our willingness to receive. These are:
the fear of breaking some perceived authority's morals or ethics
the fear of not knowing enough, being smart enough or creative enough
the fear of failure
the fear of the loss of money
the fear of losing loved ones
the fear of rejection
the fear of not being vital, beautiful, handsome or energetic enough
Through his work, Dr. Demartini has found that these seven fears, along with our guilt and shame, stem from the past and create baggage that lowers self worth. When this happens people move into altruism as a way of compensating because they feel others are more worthy than they are. They want to give disproportionately to what they receive.
There are of course people on the other end of the extreme who overvalue themselves, they become narcissistic and feel they are more worthy than others; they want to receive disproportionately to what they give.
Dr. Demartini says this greed leads to the kind of situation now faced on Wall Street where investors got caught up in the emotional exuberance of overinflated prices and became blind to the fact that the market will always correct itself. However, he also points out that people who have lasting wealth are conservative with their money; they have a strategy and stick to it regardless of the emotional highs and lows of the money market.
Demartini has observed that any time the market goes up or down by more than 10% people without a strategy do foolish things. Warren Buffet, the world's richest man (2008) and noted philanthropist says, "Until you can mange your emotions, don't expect to be able to manage money."
"The people I know who have money and wealth have a balance, they are grounded and inspired, they have a vision of service to people, they are willing to go out and do the service, and at the same time they have a healthy deserve level and they work hard and they receive. There is a little bit of truth in the metaphysics but I don't want to teach an incomplete thing."
IN THE END IT'S SIMPLE
"Don't try to get something for nothing or give something for nothing. Give and receive, it's the wisest thing," Dr Demartini said.
Wednesday, 5 May 2010
Why Do You Fear Success: Get Over It
by Anne Bellamy, Author of Using The Law of Attraction to Help The Universe Help You
It sounds crazy, doesn't it? To actually be afraid of success. After all, here's what success looks like:
How is it that so many of us are afraid of that which can bring us so much joy? That's a trick question. The answer is, that many people do not believe success will bring us joy. The vast majority of people actually believe that success will bring misery. That success can never last. Do these sayings sound familiar?
Money is the root of all evil.
Money can't buy you love
Be careful what you wish for, you just might get it
No wonder we fear success. Surely nothing good can come of it. With that way of thinking, you are right. Success will bring you misery. How destructive is that way of thinking, though? Do you really think you'll be happier if you're unsuccessful? How does that look?
Hmmm.....Maybe it's time you got over your mentality of "lack" and "I don't deserve it". Start cultivating a mentality of "abundance" and "I'm worth it!"
Compare the pictures above and you will naturally know which state you want.
It sounds crazy, doesn't it? To actually be afraid of success. After all, here's what success looks like:
How is it that so many of us are afraid of that which can bring us so much joy? That's a trick question. The answer is, that many people do not believe success will bring us joy. The vast majority of people actually believe that success will bring misery. That success can never last. Do these sayings sound familiar?
Money is the root of all evil.
Money can't buy you love
Be careful what you wish for, you just might get it
No wonder we fear success. Surely nothing good can come of it. With that way of thinking, you are right. Success will bring you misery. How destructive is that way of thinking, though? Do you really think you'll be happier if you're unsuccessful? How does that look?
Hmmm.....Maybe it's time you got over your mentality of "lack" and "I don't deserve it". Start cultivating a mentality of "abundance" and "I'm worth it!"
Compare the pictures above and you will naturally know which state you want.
Tuesday, 23 February 2010
Building Self-Confidence Through Goal Setting
by Anne Bellamy, Author of Using The Law of Attraction to Help The Universe Help You
One of the easiest and best ways to build your self-confidence is to set daily goals for yourself. These goals do not have to be monumental, or change the world. They just have to be tiny little steps that you'd like to take, that would make you feel better about yourself. Accomplishment is something that we all strive for, as it's what makes us happy. Think about it. How happy were you when you:
Got your first job?
Bought your first house?
Bought your first car?
Pretty proud of yourself, right? Okay, well then, give yourself that feeling every day. Let's start small, especially if you're working on building your self-confidence. Here are some daily goals you can set for yourself:
1. Get up half an hour earlier than usual and meditate....do this even if it's raining! You'll feel productive, focused and more importantly, proud of yourself.
2. Exercise. Resolve to do some form of exercise every day. Even if you've had a busy day, try and walk home from the station, or do some stretches at your desk. Something that makes you say "my body will thank me for this." You know it feels good after you've exercised, and I'm not talking just about physically.
3. Do not criticize or gossip. Are you that person at work who loves to spread rumours....or do you sit next to them? Strive today to not get involved in any mud-slinging conversations. See the bright side of things. Smile a little more today. Don't take things so seriously. The more you focus on positive things, the less you will be noticing the negatives.
4. Read some self-help books. Instead of plopping yourself in front of the television, decide to spend half an hour reading something that nourishes your mind, and better yet, your self-confidence and self-love.
Here's some great suggestions:
Everyone has their own idea of what accomplishments are. How about cleaning the kitchen? Vacuuming the living room? Shovelling the driveway? It doesn't really matter, as long as it's a goal that is attainable to you, and one that will make you feel proud of yourself.
The prouder you feel about yourself, the more it will show. You will begin to radiate self-confidence. The more you treat yourself with respect and love, the more others will do the same. It all starts with self-confidence.
One of the easiest and best ways to build your self-confidence is to set daily goals for yourself. These goals do not have to be monumental, or change the world. They just have to be tiny little steps that you'd like to take, that would make you feel better about yourself. Accomplishment is something that we all strive for, as it's what makes us happy. Think about it. How happy were you when you:
Got your first job?
Bought your first house?
Bought your first car?
Pretty proud of yourself, right? Okay, well then, give yourself that feeling every day. Let's start small, especially if you're working on building your self-confidence. Here are some daily goals you can set for yourself:
1. Get up half an hour earlier than usual and meditate....do this even if it's raining! You'll feel productive, focused and more importantly, proud of yourself.
2. Exercise. Resolve to do some form of exercise every day. Even if you've had a busy day, try and walk home from the station, or do some stretches at your desk. Something that makes you say "my body will thank me for this." You know it feels good after you've exercised, and I'm not talking just about physically.
3. Do not criticize or gossip. Are you that person at work who loves to spread rumours....or do you sit next to them? Strive today to not get involved in any mud-slinging conversations. See the bright side of things. Smile a little more today. Don't take things so seriously. The more you focus on positive things, the less you will be noticing the negatives.
4. Read some self-help books. Instead of plopping yourself in front of the television, decide to spend half an hour reading something that nourishes your mind, and better yet, your self-confidence and self-love.
Here's some great suggestions:
Everyone has their own idea of what accomplishments are. How about cleaning the kitchen? Vacuuming the living room? Shovelling the driveway? It doesn't really matter, as long as it's a goal that is attainable to you, and one that will make you feel proud of yourself.
The prouder you feel about yourself, the more it will show. You will begin to radiate self-confidence. The more you treat yourself with respect and love, the more others will do the same. It all starts with self-confidence.
Monday, 22 February 2010
Law of Attraction: Train Your Mind
by Anne Bellamy, Author of Using The Law of Attraction to Help The Universe Help You
A trick you may use in getting the Universe to do your bidding is to use affirmations in your daily life. They may start out as something that you do not really believe in, but like water on the rocks, the more consistently you repeat affirmations, the more you are imprinting them into your mind. Once your mind is imprinted, or in a state of belief, than you can send out these vibrations to the Universe.
Any affirmation that is repeated often enough will eventually be accepted as true by your mind. The Universe will not know the difference between that which you have trained your mind to believe and that which was already a belief in the first place. In fact, the affirmation will, more often than not, replace the belief that has been there for years.
This is a good thing! So many beliefs that have existed in your mind for years and years, do not serve you! Replace those negative and unfulfilling beliefs with beliefs that affirm your greatness and your oneness with the Universe. Start today by finding an affirmation that suits you. Here are some suggestions:
Try some of these, or come up with your own! You control your mind. It is a tool for you. You can train it to believe anything you want it to believe.
A trick you may use in getting the Universe to do your bidding is to use affirmations in your daily life. They may start out as something that you do not really believe in, but like water on the rocks, the more consistently you repeat affirmations, the more you are imprinting them into your mind. Once your mind is imprinted, or in a state of belief, than you can send out these vibrations to the Universe.
Any affirmation that is repeated often enough will eventually be accepted as true by your mind. The Universe will not know the difference between that which you have trained your mind to believe and that which was already a belief in the first place. In fact, the affirmation will, more often than not, replace the belief that has been there for years.
This is a good thing! So many beliefs that have existed in your mind for years and years, do not serve you! Replace those negative and unfulfilling beliefs with beliefs that affirm your greatness and your oneness with the Universe. Start today by finding an affirmation that suits you. Here are some suggestions:
- I have the perfect body
- I am abundant
- I am loving
- I am a money magnet
- I love money
- I am patience
- I am grateful
- I am caring
- I am rich
- I am healthy
Try some of these, or come up with your own! You control your mind. It is a tool for you. You can train it to believe anything you want it to believe.
Friday, 19 February 2010
Law of Attraction: What are You Focused On?
by Anne Bellamy, Author of Using The Law of Attraction to Help The Universe Help You
In learning the Law of Attraction there must be one simple thing that you have learned. What you focus on, materializes. Whether it's something you want, or not. What I want to do today is look at what you are focused on, and why.
Because it's always the why that provides insight into the emotion behind the goal. If you are focused on becoming rich, what is your motivation? Are you focusing on becoming rich because you do not want to be poor? Are you focused on riches because you are afraid of losing everything? Are you focused on your money, or are you really focused on your lack of money?
You have to look at the motivation behind your point of focus, in other words the why. If you are focused on becoming rich for any of the above reasons, then you will never become rich. Your motivation for wanting something, must always feel like a positive motivation. It must always make you smile. Does fearing debt make you smile? No, it probably gives you a stomach ache.
Does imagining yourself on a private yacht, suntanning on deck with a glass of champagne make you smile? Can you imagine yourself there? Can you feel the warmth of the sun on your skin?
Can you feel the bubbles in the champagne as they slide down your throat? Does that feel good? You betcha. Your motivation for riches has now become something that makes you feel good.
If focusing on your goal, whatever it may be, doesn't make you smile, then you either have to change the goal, or change the motivation (why) behind the goal. You cannot keep your eye on your destination if you are looking behind you all the time. Look forward, see and feel your destination coming closer.
In learning the Law of Attraction there must be one simple thing that you have learned. What you focus on, materializes. Whether it's something you want, or not. What I want to do today is look at what you are focused on, and why.
Because it's always the why that provides insight into the emotion behind the goal. If you are focused on becoming rich, what is your motivation? Are you focusing on becoming rich because you do not want to be poor? Are you focused on riches because you are afraid of losing everything? Are you focused on your money, or are you really focused on your lack of money?
You have to look at the motivation behind your point of focus, in other words the why. If you are focused on becoming rich for any of the above reasons, then you will never become rich. Your motivation for wanting something, must always feel like a positive motivation. It must always make you smile. Does fearing debt make you smile? No, it probably gives you a stomach ache.
Does imagining yourself on a private yacht, suntanning on deck with a glass of champagne make you smile? Can you imagine yourself there? Can you feel the warmth of the sun on your skin?
Can you feel the bubbles in the champagne as they slide down your throat? Does that feel good? You betcha. Your motivation for riches has now become something that makes you feel good.
If focusing on your goal, whatever it may be, doesn't make you smile, then you either have to change the goal, or change the motivation (why) behind the goal. You cannot keep your eye on your destination if you are looking behind you all the time. Look forward, see and feel your destination coming closer.
Friday, 12 February 2010
Build Your Self-Confidence and Learn to Be Happy
by Anne Bellamy, Author of Using The Law of Attraction to Help The Universe Help You
If you are lacking in Self-confidence than you are lacking in what is one of your greatest tools. Your level of self-confidence determines what you bring into this experience of your life. The way to bring more self-confidence into your life is to be still with yourself.
A lot of people feel uncomfortable just being alone, never mind being still. But you must not be afraid to be alone. For it is in this solitude that you will be able to develop an incredibly strong sense of self-confidence.
How does this work? When you are alone, there is no one to influence your thoughts. There is no one to dominate your attention. Everything that you think about can be focussed on you and you alone. By the way, you always have the ability to do this, it's just easier with no distractions.
So, for the novice, find some time and space to yourself. Be alone and feel comfortable with it. Feel at peace with the solitude. Invite it in. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being alone. Some absolutely love it!
You need to learn to love your own company. You need to grow, on your terms, at your own speed. When you find yourself alone, or when you make yourself alone, give some time to consider your thoughts. What are you thinking about all day long? Do you punish yourself for being late? Do you worry about having a bad hair day? Do you think this outfit makes you look fat?
All this self-doubt only sabotages your happiness and therefore, your future. Do you know the saying that you wouldn't worry so much what people think about you if you realized how little people think about you? Consider that!
Really, how often do you think about other people? Not too often. Most of us are self-absorbed. That's great on some level. If that self-absorption leads you to a good place, but if you're lacking in self-confidence, that self-absorption is quite harmful.
You need to start thinking about what you do like about yourself. You need to start realizing that the Universe loves you. That you have a spirit guide, who loves you. Call it what you will, there is a higher power who sees all the glory that is you.
Spend some time alone and consider your good qualities. Make a point of doing so. Count your blessings. Big yourself up! You need to do this before you can attract more happiness and abundance into your life. Here's a few things about yourself that may make you smile:
You may only relate to a few of the things on this list, but that's okay. Pick what you relate to, and focus on those things! Be grateful for your compassion, your patience or you intelligence.
Feel your head with gratitude and appreciation! Your self-confidence will start to rise. You will start to believe in yourself. And when you have belief, you are speaking the language of the Universe, and it will start to reply.
If you are lacking in Self-confidence than you are lacking in what is one of your greatest tools. Your level of self-confidence determines what you bring into this experience of your life. The way to bring more self-confidence into your life is to be still with yourself.
A lot of people feel uncomfortable just being alone, never mind being still. But you must not be afraid to be alone. For it is in this solitude that you will be able to develop an incredibly strong sense of self-confidence.
How does this work? When you are alone, there is no one to influence your thoughts. There is no one to dominate your attention. Everything that you think about can be focussed on you and you alone. By the way, you always have the ability to do this, it's just easier with no distractions.
So, for the novice, find some time and space to yourself. Be alone and feel comfortable with it. Feel at peace with the solitude. Invite it in. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being alone. Some absolutely love it!
You need to learn to love your own company. You need to grow, on your terms, at your own speed. When you find yourself alone, or when you make yourself alone, give some time to consider your thoughts. What are you thinking about all day long? Do you punish yourself for being late? Do you worry about having a bad hair day? Do you think this outfit makes you look fat?
All this self-doubt only sabotages your happiness and therefore, your future. Do you know the saying that you wouldn't worry so much what people think about you if you realized how little people think about you? Consider that!
Really, how often do you think about other people? Not too often. Most of us are self-absorbed. That's great on some level. If that self-absorption leads you to a good place, but if you're lacking in self-confidence, that self-absorption is quite harmful.
You need to start thinking about what you do like about yourself. You need to start realizing that the Universe loves you. That you have a spirit guide, who loves you. Call it what you will, there is a higher power who sees all the glory that is you.
Spend some time alone and consider your good qualities. Make a point of doing so. Count your blessings. Big yourself up! You need to do this before you can attract more happiness and abundance into your life. Here's a few things about yourself that may make you smile:
- Your sense of humour
- Your intelligence
- Your kindness
- Your compassion
- Your patience
- Your curiosity
- Your smile
- Your laugh
- Your physical appearance
- The friends you have attracted
- The family who loves you
- Your pet who loves you
You may only relate to a few of the things on this list, but that's okay. Pick what you relate to, and focus on those things! Be grateful for your compassion, your patience or you intelligence.
Feel your head with gratitude and appreciation! Your self-confidence will start to rise. You will start to believe in yourself. And when you have belief, you are speaking the language of the Universe, and it will start to reply.
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