Wednesday, 5 June 2013

Don't Let Your Past Predict Your Future

"You've made your bed, so now you have to lie in it"  How many times have you heard, or said, this little chestnut?  Basically, what it's saying is, you have to live with the consequences of your choices.  You have to let your choices define who you are.  You have to carry around these consequences like an albatross around your neck.

What a load of crap!

People like to put others into certain categories.  You decided to study chemistry, so now you have to become a scientist.  You took a job in sales, so now you're a salesperson and you  have to build your career in that area.  You learned how to play the piano, so now you're a musician.  God forbid you decide one day that you don't like chemistry, sales, or music.  But how can that be?!?!  You chose those things for yourself!  You've made your bed......blah, blah, blah.

If I were to give a young adult starting out in life it would be this: "Don't be afraid to make a choice.  You can always change your mind."

Some people take so long making decisions because they are afraid that they will define who they are for the rest of their lives.  If that were true, no wonder they take so long to decide!  What a scary proposition!

But guess what?  You can change your mind.  You can change your life.  You can make a new choice.  You start off by thinking a new thought. And then another one.  And then another one.  And so on....
Bit by bit, the thoughts you think bring about new experiences, new choices, a new life.


Don't let others define who you are.  You get to do that.  Don't let others tell you should do.  You get to do that. And if you make a "bad" choice, you get to choose again.  Every. Single. Time.

So go on, made a decision.  And if you want to change your mind, then change it!  You're allowed.  That's why you're here:  to create your own life, your own "mistakes" and your own choices.