The "Being A Brat Part"
The reason I put "or being a brat" in the title of this blog post is because in order to deliberately create your life, you're going to need to be selfish, and being selfish might get you branded a brat by people around you. They might even call you something worse. So be prepared for it by being able to shrug it off.
The word "selfish" has negative connotations, so no one wants to own up to being selfish. They'd rather appear to put others before themselves. It's a martyr syndrome. "Oh, whoa is me! I put everyone else before myself. Aren't I an angel? And now my life is so hard!" Please! Call the pity police. I want no part of this action.
Being selfish means that you look out for number one. Is that really such a bad thing? And don't we all really, deep down, do that anyway? My brother once told me that whenever he's hot or cold he adjusts the thermometer without consulting anyone else. His defense? "Hey, if I don't look after my own comfort, who will?" At the time I thought he was "being selfish". I was right. Only now, I don't look at it negatively. He had a point, after all. If we don't take care of ourselves, then who will?
The "Deliberate Creation Part"
Okay, now that we've agreed, it's okay to be selfish, let's look at the benefits. When you take time to tend to your own happiness the Universe rewards you. By taking time I mean reading, meditating, exercising, taking part in a fun activity, like dancing, golf or skiing or whatever else floats your boat.
When you take time for yourself, you're telling the Universe "hey, I matter, and how I feels matters too. I WANT TO FEEL GOOD!" The Universe likes hearing this from you, and it's more than happy to assist
you in manifesting good things
When you feel good, things just magically fall into place for you. Solutions to problems arrive, serendipitous meetings and events occur. Although they may call you a brat in the beginning, eventually people around you will start to respond positively to you. They will come around, or they'll move on.
Deliberate Creation is how you build the life of your dreams. Don't be a feather in the wind. Take control of your life and steer it in the direction of your choice. Yes, you will need to be selfish to do that. But I mean that in the very best way. Next time someone calls you selfish, just smile at them and say "Yes, I am."